You've tried everything. Real change doesn't happen on the surface — it happens beneath the behaviour
Helping your anxious child — and helping you help them
Does this sound like you....You want the best for your child
You want to get this right.
Parenting isn’t always easy — and when it comes to anxiety, there’s a part of you quietly wondering:
“Could my anxiety be affecting them?”
Maybe your little one is still a baby, and you’re already aware of how much they pick up from you.
Or maybe your child is a bit older, and you’ve started to notice:
- More worry than you expected
- Hesitation or holding back
- Avoiding things they used to manage
- Needing reassurance more often than feels right
- Big reactions to small change
And if you’re honest with yourself…
You don’t want them to struggle with anxiety the way you have
As a parent we do the best we can with what we know...
You've probably already tried to help
• You’ve reassured them
• You’ve talked things through
• You’ve tried to help them feel better in the moment
• You’ve tried to stay calm under pressure
And in many ways that makes sense…
But when it comes to anxiety those approaches don’t always make real change
Because anxiety is not coming from the conscious mind it’s coming from underneath.
And if that part isn’t being worked with – things might improve for a while but they don’t fully shift
What 10+ Years Working With Anxiety Has Taught Me
Adults who have anxiety typically have had one of the below or a combination of:
– An anxious parent
– A stressful event that has not been resolved
– A parent who had unresolved anger issues
– Worked with traditional talk therapies
– A belief that that anxiety would have disappeared on it’s own
What needs to change for anxiety to change
Anxiety isn’t a fixed trait — it’s a set of patterns running underneath the surface. Change the pattern, and everything on top starts to change too. Here’s how that actually works
See the pattern
First, we spot the patterns running beneath the behaviour — in your child, and in the family around them. Because you can't change what you can't see
Change it underneath
This is the part almost everyone misses. These patterns sit below conscious thought — you can't talk a child out of them. That's the heart of the Beneath the Behaviour™ method
Practice the new skill
Once the old pattern shifts, the new response gets practised in small steps — until it's second nature. This is where calm and confidence become how your child actually lives
You don't have to work this out on your own...
What most people are not told about childhood anxiety...
Anxiety & Genetics
There is no one gene that is responsible for anxiety - there is a combination of genetics and environment
Anxiety & Learnt behaviours
Children learn how to perceive the world from their parents
Anxiety & Unconscious mind
Our anxiety runs deeper than our conscious mind - we need to work with the unconscious patterns underneath, not just the thinking on top
Anxiety & Anxious parents
The flip side, when a parent changes how they respond, the child has the best possible chance to change too
Raising Calm, Confident Kids Starts Here
Learn how to break anxiety patterns, understand what’s driving them, and help your child respond to life with more confidence
Experiences from people I’ve worked with
About Anne
I’ve spent more than 10 years helping people understand and work through anxiety by working with the unconscious mind—the part underneath the overthinking, fear, and patterns that keep anxiety going.
I know this work personally too. I experienced anxiety myself for years, so I understand how deeply it can shape the way we think, feel, and respond to life.
I’m also a mum of three.
And what I’ve learned, both as a parent and through years of working with anxiety, is that children learn from how we respond.
That’s why this work starts with parents.
Because when you understand anxiety differently, work with it differently, and respond differently—your child learns something different too.
Qualifications and Membership:
– Clinical Member of Australian Hypnotherapy Association
– Diploma of Strategic Psychotherapy
– Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy
– Professional Hypnotherapy Diploma
– Master Practitioner of NLP, Hypnosis and Time Line Therapy
– Results Coach Certification
– 10 years + working with anxiety, subconscious patterns and behavioural change
Why I Wrote This Book
Surviving to Thriving came out of more than a decade of working with people who’d tried everything on the surface and still felt stuck. What changed things was never more willpower or more talking — it was working with the unconscious mind, and the patterns running underneath.
It’s the same understanding behind everything I do with parents and children today, and the foundation of the Beneath the Behaviour™ method.
A Guide for Parents of Anxious Kids
The Real Reason Your Child is Anxious — And why working on their behaviour is never enough